1 thought on “OWN’s The O’Neals – A Homecoming: Tatum’s Birthday Party”
As Dr. Phil says…..in many cases…..”There are no victims, only volunteers”.
I can see why Ryan joked and was going to sign the BD card….”To Tantrum”.
She has a constant victim look on her face and it appears she’s always on the lookout for a fight. She talks of her father’s rage and her anger is always right there. I understand why she was attracted to her ex-husband, John.
Two peas in a pod. I don’t see her Dad as the “Bad Guy” she makes him out to be. I see kids and maybe grandkids that are always out looking for an argument. If they come looking, they’re surely going to find one with Ryan. He’s up for a fight and it doesn’t take much to bring one on.
Tatum came back looking for her Dad to apologize for every perceived wrong. Give the man a break. Even if he does bow down to her demands and wishes, I don’t think she’ll be any happier when all is said and done.
She comes with a very troubled genetic background. Addiction and anger have been two constants throughout the entire family.
Apologies may soothe feathers, but blood chemistry demands treatment.
Ryan comes with charisma that softens the blow of an abrasive personality. It’s a coping skill that has pulled him through some rough waters.
Tatum doesn’t have that charisma. She could if she would get rid of that enormous chip on her shoulder.
Farrah is out of Tatum’s way, but Tatum is still in her own way of happiness and peace.
I wish she would start loving her father, bad blood and all. Quit pushing his buttons and enjoy the time they have left. If it feels too much like enabling, old broken down co-dependencies……then just love each other from afar.
She may win a few battles, but she’ll lose the war if she keeps pushing for too much.
As Dr. Phil says…..in many cases…..”There are no victims, only volunteers”.
I can see why Ryan joked and was going to sign the BD card….”To Tantrum”.
She has a constant victim look on her face and it appears she’s always on the lookout for a fight. She talks of her father’s rage and her anger is always right there. I understand why she was attracted to her ex-husband, John.
Two peas in a pod. I don’t see her Dad as the “Bad Guy” she makes him out to be. I see kids and maybe grandkids that are always out looking for an argument. If they come looking, they’re surely going to find one with Ryan. He’s up for a fight and it doesn’t take much to bring one on.
Tatum came back looking for her Dad to apologize for every perceived wrong. Give the man a break. Even if he does bow down to her demands and wishes, I don’t think she’ll be any happier when all is said and done.
She comes with a very troubled genetic background. Addiction and anger have been two constants throughout the entire family.
Apologies may soothe feathers, but blood chemistry demands treatment.
Ryan comes with charisma that softens the blow of an abrasive personality. It’s a coping skill that has pulled him through some rough waters.
Tatum doesn’t have that charisma. She could if she would get rid of that enormous chip on her shoulder.
Farrah is out of Tatum’s way, but Tatum is still in her own way of happiness and peace.
I wish she would start loving her father, bad blood and all. Quit pushing his buttons and enjoy the time they have left. If it feels too much like enabling, old broken down co-dependencies……then just love each other from afar.
She may win a few battles, but she’ll lose the war if she keeps pushing for too much.